Thursday, June 14, 2012

The Value of Mom Vs Dad!!

I recently had the misfortune of reading a tidbit from some insurance website stating that daddies are supposedly worth only a third of what mommies are worth.

How do they come to this conclusion?

Well, they divide every day life into a series of Mom jobs versus Dad Jobs because apparently Moms don't do things like plumbing or move furniture or perform regular maintenance on the vehicle/s.  And, I guess that it is equally unheard of that Dads do things like take care of their kids, nurse wounds, or even be aware of what the kiddies are up to at any given time.

This whole thing leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.

It wouldn't be so bad if the article wasn't so blatantly sexist and repulsive.  I mean, come on! When are articles like these going to stop selling all of us parent types short?

The 1950's called and wants their ideas of gender roles back!

In case you haven't heard, Moms and Dads are both parents now and they are both workers too, and, this will totally blow your mind, some dads even stay at home with the bratlings.

Moms can do anything dads can and vice-versa, and to try and place a monetary value on either is slightly absurd.  But, what can I expect from an article that is trying to sell life insurance?

Well, I guess I could expect them to keep up with the times and not print stuff like this:

"Jamie O'Boyle, senior analyst for the Center for Cultural Studies & Analysis in Philadelphia, says fathers aren't nearly as important to families as mothers. In recognition of this, men typically concede most major family decisions to their wives.
'The woman decides where you are going to live, where your kids are going to go to school,' says O'Boyle. 'Women are the ones who are there to make that family unit work. Men are essentially fungible, meaning you can always get another one." (http://www.insure.com/articles/lifeinsurance/the-mothers-day-index.html)

As a husband and a father that really stings a bit.





P.s. To read the articles you can go here for the one discussing the value of moms at the home front and here to see the value of dads at the home front.

4 comments:

  1. And you wonder why dad's leave if crap like this is forced down their throats they aren't worth anything. Maybe instead of saying this all over the place there should be something saying something a little more valuable making men feel more important in the relationship. The 2 comments posted with this article are just examples of husbands dad's being a supportive husband/father and making a sacrifice to satisfy the wife. BUT, if husbands/fathers don't do this above they get the stereotype as a controlling father/husband. So one sided in the article referenced above. Do you every hear of having mommy issues in kids when the mom leaves? What about when the dad leaves, how does that impact the mental well-being a child vs. the mom? Where that study? No one can be equal today and unfortunately the husband dad is either bad or worthless.

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    1. Thanks for the comment. It is unfortunate that these two articles, and many others as well, fail to recognize that men can parent along side women as equals and often do, but not nearly often enough.

      It is a fallacy that mommies are more important than daddies when it comes to child rearing, and it is a shame that this archaic stereotype is still portrayed in modern publications. But, how can we change this unfair perception of fathers and fatherhood?

      We start at the home front by getting involved. We take an active role in our children's lives. We share the work load with our spouses.

      If we want recognition as equals in the parenting field, then we better start acting like equals. We have to be willing to change the diapers. We have to be willing to do the dishes, the laundry, the cooking, the cleaning. Above that we actually have to take on those responsibilities because being willing to do something and actually getting up off your buns and doing it is totally different.

      There doesn't have to be a difference between mom jobs and dad jobs. A parent is a parent. And, until more fathers out there recognize this and start acting accordingly, then the rest of society will not change there opinions of a fathers worth.

      No, not all of us dads stick to the 1950's idea of what being a dad is, but too many do. I want that to change. I want more fathers to be involved. I want more dads to share the load equally. We all have something to bring to the table here, and there is no excuse to not do so.

      Money is not enough. It's practically meaningless. If you are going to be a parent, you need to bring yourself to to the table. That's what your kids need. They need you. It's not enough to be the bread winner. You can't go to work then come home and call it a day. Not and still be taken seriously as a parent anyway. We all, mothers and fathers, need to be there with our kids not around them.

      Now, we can't make others change how they choose to parent, but we can change how we parent, and hopefully lead by example.

      I'm going to try and be a leader.

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  2. Last comment, if that much money can be made doing those things, then maybe they should do them instead of complaining about what 'would' be.

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  3. @ Anonymous: You are clearly missing the point here. Dizzy Dad is trying to talk about the changing family structure that renders this sort of article increasingly obsolete. The very fact that you think that being “under-valued” is an excuse to be less of a parent or even better to just become an absentee father is ridiculous and asinine. Fathers and mothers abandon their children because they are selfish, petty, and don’t care enough about their child(ren) to actually be parents. Turning deadbeats, male or female, into quasi-political activists or victims of an unjust system and social structure is disgusting beyond words. Get with it! All children should have the benefit of two parents who actually care to be their parents and are there for them. There is no need to do a study to understand that a child suffers from the loss of either parent.

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