Friday, July 15, 2011

The Hardest Job You'll Ever Love?

You know, there are a lot of things that people say that really irritate me, like when people say “literally” when they really don’t mean that at all.  That just frustrates the hell out of me.   In order to describe something as literally happening it has to be truthful and unexaggerated.  For instance, in most cases it cannot literally rain cats and dogs unless there are in fact cats and dogs falling from the sky.  Otherwise, it is just raining hard…maybe. 

But, what is even more irritating to me than people who use the word literally incorrectly are the people who like to spout old clichés out, and the worst cliché of them all, in my opinion, is this one.  “Parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever love.”

Come on! 

Do you really believe that?

Can’t you come up with something new to say about parenting?

I mean really.  Sure, being a parent takes some getting used to at first, but is it really “the hardest job you’ll ever love?”

Just thinking like that really bothers me.  First of all, I don’t really think that being someone’s parent should be described as a job.  It is like calling it an obligation that you wish you didn’t have or saying that it is difficult to love your kid. 

That just doesn’t seem right for some reason.  It isn’t an obligation and it shouldn’t be hard for anyone to love their own children.  After all, no one forced/is forcing you to become a parent but you.  If you are not prepared to be a parent, then don’t fornicate irresponsibly. (Yeah, I know that it isn't always that simple, but in the more complicated situations the parents aren't likely to say things like "Parenting is the hardest job you'll ever love" are they?)

Anyway, by the time you are ready to ‘bump uglies’ you should already know that the aftermath of sex sometimes leads to children (and maybe an STD or two also).  This shouldn’t be a hard concept to grasp.  I mean really.  They teach it in elementary school for cryin’ out loud.  So, if you are not prepared to have a little, slave driving, dictator on your hands then you should think twice before insertion happens! 

Another thing that bothers me about this awful phrase is that I have never once heard a woman say such a thing.  It’s always the “fathers” that I hear saying it.  Why is that?  Is it easier for women to be a parent than men?

That’s what it sounds like to me.

Way to make all us dads look bad. 

Thanks a lot!

Who knows why it is only guys that say this about parenting?  Maybe it is like my wife says, “Women start to be a mommy long before men start to be a daddy.”   So, maybe the reason the men that state that “Parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever love” say it is because they feel like they missed out on that extra ten months of connection with their child, which might make it more difficult for them to deal with the rugrat.

I don’t know. 

I personally think that when a father says that “parenting is the hardest job that you’ll ever love,” they really mean that “growing up is hard to do,” which is another terrible cliché.

Yeah, I agree that being an adult emotionally is difficult, so you probably shouldn’t become a parent before you become an adult.   

That makes sense doesn’t it?

Think of all the best parents that you know. 

What do they all have in common? 

They are probably the best people that you know of too, which means they aren’t very childish are they?

Well, of all the parents that I know, they all obviously love their kids, but that isn’t enough.  To be a great mom or dad you also have to be a good person and a more. 

You have to be able to put your children’s needs above your own.  You have to be mature and responsible.  You have to be able to provide your kids with guidance and a decent sense of what is right and wrong.  You have to be caring and considerate of others.  You have to be patient and understanding.  You have to know when to listen and when to speak.  You have to know when to be a friend and when to be a leader.  You have to be childish at times and stern at others….blah blah blah.

You know what?  There is just too much to being a good parent for me to ever write down all of it, but the most important part of being a good parent to me is that you never stop trying to be a better one.

Yeah, that means a little work, but does it really necessitate being called “the hardest job you’ll ever love?”  It is more like a change in who you are or in your way of life than a job isn’t it?



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